In "The Dreaming Newborn: Are We Born Remembering?", I explore the mysteries of consciousness through the eyes of my new son, Ralph. As I observe him resting on my chest, his active dreaming challenges the idea that we are born as blank slates. Without memories of traffic, trees, or faces, where does his internal world come from?
This piece dives into the connection between environment, feelings, and the "old soul" wisdom that seems to exist before language ever arrives.
"If he has no experience of this world yet, no memories of traffic or trees or faces, what raw material is he thinking about / experiencing?"
"When he looks at me, he doesn't look at a stranger. He looks at me like he is remembering who I am. And strangely, I feel like I am remembering him, too. It feels like a reunion."
Read the full story to explore how the flow of feelings shapes who we are from day one.
Does a falling tree make a sound if no one is there to hear it? Philokosmia argues it does not. Sound is not in the wood, the air, or the neurons; it is a subjective event rendered only when the universe’s energy syncs with a conscious observer.
In this view, the universe is not a collection of distinct objects, but a formless ocean of quantum potential. Your awareness is the aperture through which this infinite energy stabilises into a coherent world. Without the observer, the circuit breaks, the lens vanishes, and reality dissolves back into the void. You aren't just living in the universe, your consciousness is the very thing creating it.
By focusing on the success of their successor, a leader ensures their own legacy is one of inspiration, positivity, and enduring value.
The transition of leadership is captured in this professional moment, where a leader hands over the reins to their successor with a sense of shared purpose.
This scene represents more than just a job change; it is the culmination of every relationship and strategic alignment within the company coming together to create a singular, focused moment of continuity.
‘In a future full of smart connected artificial intelligence ‘doing’, the most valuable thing you can be is a deeply grounded human, ‘being.’’
The Core of Coherence Coaching
The article argues that our modern "off time" feeling isn't a failure of time management, but a desynchronisation between our internal rhythms and the artificial "corporate clock." Instead of teaching people to "swim harder" against the current of a chaotic life, Coherence Coaching focuses on tuning your frequency to achieve constructive interference, where your internal world and external environment work in harmony.
How does a coach know what you’re thinking? They don't, and they never will—because your subjective experience of the world is a completely unique phenomenon. 'Objectivity' is simply collectively agreed subjectivity, and a true coaching environment gives you the vital space to discover your own truth before you agree to live in someone else's.
‘What matters most is your thinking and your expression, helped by the use of words. Regardless of the words you use or how you externalise your inner experience, the act of expression itself makes you more coherent.’
‘And it doesn't really matter what you say or how you express yourself or even how well you are understood. Externalising your internal experience in the way you do is absolutely correct and creates your world.’
‘We all decide to call a tree a tree and that creates the reality of a tree being a tree. It wasn't a tree until we labelled it that. What was it before we existed?’
When you consider consciousness as something created between relationships, between a coach and coachee, for example, you start to consider how you can keep this in mind and potentially change yourself…
…And how you can tune your world.
Coherence Coaching recognises that when a coach truly listens and cultivates coherent thought, the outlet for the coachee’s stream of consciousness is created and it starts to flow more. The connection creates more thoughts, more awareness and more coherence, which elevates consciousness.
This can feel like your coach is thinking with you or like you are tapping into the processing power of 2 minds.
And there’s more to Coherence Coaching
Coherence Coaching goes beyond this still; coaching the individual and how they can change themselves is just the start. It is about more than the individual, more than just holistic.
Philokosmia is the love of universal wisdom expressed through harmony among all systems
It's different to a philosophy
Philosophy means love (Philo) of wisdom (Sophia)
Philokosmia means love (Philo) of the cosmos (Kosmia)
Philokosmia invites us to see ourselves not as isolated minds trapped in biological machines, but as living participants in the cosmos’s unfolding awareness. It is the realisation that existence is a continuous, plural dance between material systems and conscious fields.
When coherence grows, consciousness deepens.
Real coaching is a third energy. It is something that only exists in the sparks between a coach and a coachee. It is a creative act, and right now, I am looking for a co-author.
The taste of chocolate isn't "in" the chocolate, nor is it "in" the taster. It is an emergent property created in the relationship between the two. In this same way, coaching is not a pre-packaged service it is a unique state of consciousness that only exists in the space between the coach and the coachee. Without the relationship, the "taste" of transformation never occurs.
Consciousness is not a static object you can isolate; it is a relational resonance created within and between relationships, from the biological to the cosmic. It is the networked coherence that emerges when different elements, people, senses, or ideas, interact and turn their awareness inward.
This summary challenges the idea that coaching is just a transaction. It positions the coaching room as a laboratory for qualia—the subjective, lived experience—where the goal isn't just to solve a problem, but to elevate the very state of awareness from which those problems were created.
In "The Dreaming Newborn: Are We Born Remembering?", I explore the mysteries of consciousness through the eyes of my new son, Ralph. As I observe him resting on my chest, his active dreaming challenges the idea that we are born as blank slates. Without memories of traffic, trees, or faces, where does his internal world come from?
This piece dives into the connection between environment, feelings, and the "old soul" wisdom that seems to exist before language ever arrives.
Read the full story to explore how the flow of feelings shapes who we are from day one.
Philokosmia defines consciousness and nature as a single, symbiotic reality. The internal "feeling" and external "expression" of the same living universe.
Like a rhythmic breath, awareness cycles between inward reflection and outward manifestation, suggesting that every form of life is an interconnected node in a unified field. Ultimately, nature is consciousness made visible, while consciousness is nature becoming aware of itself.